How many times have you heard these statements from other women? “I don’t deal with women.” “I don’t have female friends.” What are your thoughts when you hear these statements? My thoughts? Those words are coming from a place of hurt. Maybe she was hurt by a former friend or other close female in her life. We put up emotional walls after being scorned in friendships just as we do in any other failed relationship. I don’t believe that a woman just wakes up one day and decides that, for no reason, she does not want to ‘deal’ with other women. As much as we may not be able to admit it, we really do need one another.
Do We Really Need One Another? Yes! Absolutely! Women are nurturers. We are naturally inclined to take care of those around us, including one another. We look to one another for understanding, for advice, or simply a listening ear. Friendships among women are often strong and emotional, so, of course, when that bond falls apart, it can be very upsetting, making one leery of opening up to others. Because of this, we have to be as cautious in choosing these close friends as we are in choosing our romantic partners. Protect your circle! Here are some questions that you may want to ask if you have any doubts about your close friendships with your sister-friends
Let’s stick together. Let’s support one another. Let’s thrive and claim our charmed lives! Thanks for checking out the post! Please comment and tell me what your sister-friends mean to you! Antoinette
18 Comments
1/17/2016 09:27:18 pm
I am so with you. It's sad when women allow myths to rob them of great relationships.
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8/2/2018 01:51:30 pm
We don't hate for no reason. I am sure those girls who decided they do not want female friends may had a bad experience before. Perhaps, they were backstabbed or betrayed and they promised not to trust women anymore. Well, men are indeed cooler than women. Female friendship is full of drama and stuff. While men just want companionship an genuine friendship. It's very rare for men to have dramas and everything!
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Truly Charmed
8/2/2018 08:16:48 pm
It's sad when the disconnect happens. However, personal choice is what it is. If a woman decides that she can only vibe with male friends, she can do so. From my perspective, I value my connections with other women. This post is truly about weeding those people out who'd betray you to the point of feeling that you can no longer deal with women. Thanks for your comment. 1/15/2016 10:34:48 am
As a woman over 40, my female friendships have definitely changed. My circle is super small.
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1/17/2016 09:29:07 pm
It seems to happen that way naturally. The genuine relationships stick around.
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Antoinette
1/17/2016 09:30:14 pm
There's nothing wrong with a small circle, as long as the relationships are genuine.
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1/16/2016 11:37:40 pm
I never understood people who "can't do women" it is YOU not them trust. I treasure my girls, they are the voice of reason when I'm unreasonable and they keep me going.
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Often times when I hear women say that they don't like having female friends, it comes from a place of hurt. And sometimes its because they want all the attention and no competition. I know I personally have a small circle of friends and I love them because they respect me and love me for who I am.
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1/17/2016 07:28:01 pm
I enjoy being around my friends. It's the negative ladies, the ones that like to start mess all the time. They don't want to stick together. Prefer to be with supportive, and protective circle of friends.
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I heard this too many times from women! They cant deal with other women...how? Arent you a woman? Its sad and the media is not making it better, its sad but I love being around women! Men have no problem building strong male bonds and us women need to stick together and support and uplift and not be so competitive. Its nothing like women unity!
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1/19/2016 02:57:43 pm
I have different circles of friends and they all mean the world to me. I think people who haven't been able to establish those long term meaningful friendships are really missing out. I'm fortunate.
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Tyra
1/20/2016 10:50:43 pm
This is so true! I am becoming much more wary of people I let into my inner circle. I think it's perfectly fine to have different circles and different levels of friends and acquaintances.
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Alexan Green
3/8/2018 07:49:00 am
You rock! This is a must read. 😊
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