The only people who truly understand introverts are other introverts. There are a lot of misconceptions about what introversion means. It does not mean that we are shy. It does not mean that we do not like to socialize. It does mean that we need our own space to think. We are energized by being alone, and often have to take a little alone time to recover from social situations. My daughter and I are true blue introverts, and I often laugh at some of the things that we say. In this post, I’ll share with you some things that come only from the minds of introverts.
Don’t misunderstand. Introverts love people, but it’s definitely quality over quantity. We value genuine relationships. Introverts are cool people to know. We’re often very intuitive and analytical. We’re creative and conjure awesomely innovative ideas (think Bill Gates). We can put on the extrovert hat when necessary, but it can be draining. You’ll often hear of introverted performers/public speakers adopting alter egos to characterize their public persona (think Beyoncé/Sasha Fierce). Because we spend so much time thinking and creating, the mind of the introvert can be an interesting place.
Do you consider yourself an introvert, extrovert, or a little of both? Feel free to add to this list of ‘thoughts’ from the mind of introverts
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The discussion of hair among Black women (and by others about Black women) is always a huge topic. Reason: hair means different things to different women. For some, it’s one way in which they express their love of our ethnicity. For others, it’s all aesthetic. I’m sure that if you ask ten different women what their hair means to them, you will get ten different answers. In this post, I’m sharing my take on the subject-what my hair means to me.
But first...here's an update! This post was originally published on 09/18/15. Today is 06/24/2018. Eight months after writing this post, I went natural. I have been natural for over 2 years now (but I still wear my wigs, lol). It was a personal choice. I reached a point of realizing that I had never known the true texture of my hair. It's a process of embracing more of me...that's all. In addition, relaxers were no longer having the same effect on my hair. It was time to move on from them. Do I still see hair as an accessory? Yep! Does it define me? No. I'd be just as beautiful with or without it.
India.Arie sums it up best…
I am not my hair. To be quite frank, I see hair as an accessory or an expression of how I feel at any given point in life. Depending on the occasion, the mood, or my outfit. I wear many different hairstyles. Braids and twists are convenient. For some reason, during the summer, I love curly styles. I reach some points at which I just want to cut it all off (been feeling that way lately-change may be coming soon). I do get bored with hairstyles and I change it often. I absolutely love having the option to change it up whenever I want, however I want. My hairstyle is not among the characteristics that define me as a woman. If I had no hair, I’d still be Antoinette, the same on the inside, looking a little different on the outside.
For those who consider their hair an extension of their cultural pride, I totally get it and I LOVE to see it. Pride in oneself in whatever form (not including any act done in the name of pride that denigrates or harms others, of course) is a beautiful thing. I’ve never been one to consider my hair as a measure of my blackness. Neither is wrong. For me, my pride is expressed through my love and appreciation for my ancestors and all that they sacrificed, striving to honor their legacy in all that I do, and ensuring that my children understand and are informed about our history. Even if I, at some point, decide to rock a bone straight, blond wig/weave, I’m still the same immensely proud, beautifully melanin-infused woman that I will always be.
I also have major respect for those who have given up the ‘creamy crack’ simply because it’s not healthy. I agree with that sentiment and I have tried…three times y’all. My hair is the epitome of 4C, and in its natural state, it’s a lot of work. So, yea, for me, certain hairstyles are a matter of convenience.
Unfortunately, there are women who are defined by their hair. They will NOT be seen with their natural hair, ever. It’s a huge topic that I won’t delve into too deeply. It’s one of the reasons that we have to teach our young ladies about their self-worth—those things that should define them and those things that should not. It’s something that I insist on with my own daughter—that she have a love and understanding of herself that is so strong that it cannot be uprooted by minor, aesthetic issues or the opinions of others.
So, for me, hair is…
Another update! You know what truly annoys me? Those who assume that, because a black woman straightens or colors her hair, she is trying to be white. That's such nonsense and I wish that it would stop. Those who see hair choice as an indicator of self-hate have so much to learn about women and what drives our fashion and beauty choices.
Tell me. What does your hair mean to you? I look forward to the discussion.
Though the last day of summer is September 22, 2015, for many different events signify the unofficial end of summer. Some consider the first day of school as the unofficial end of summer. Others see Labor Day as the season’s finale. For me, summer ended with the cool air that greeted me when I walked outside to get something from the car on Sunday night. This has caused me to reminisce about this season’s events. Here are a few highlights from summer 2015.
My nephew graduated from high school, with honors!
My son, Zy, has always dreamed of attending USC (SC), and had the opportunity to attend their summer football camp. He was sooo excited!
My daughter, Christal, happily volunteered with the YMCA.
I learned that there are still people with very beautiful spirits in this world.
The care that my son received during his stays at Palmetto Health Children’s Hospital (Columbia, SC) and Levine’s Children’s Hospital (Charlotte, NC) was second to none. The nurses and staff at both hospitals were so caring and attentive. Some would even call on their days off to check on his progress. I could not have asked for a better experience.
What are some of your favorite summer moments from this summer?
On September 23rd, we will welcome the fall equinox and a brand new season of opportunities and experiences. I wish you all the best during this last quarter of 2015.
The creator of Truly Charmed, Antoinette Cain, delights in all things fashion, all things fostering empowerment, and all things that inspire ambition. Antoinette started this fashion and lifestyle blog to celebrate those who are living their Charmed Lives and to empower those who haven't yet realized that life may be imperfect, but in every day there is a Charmed moment.