Here’s one of my favorite quotes by Maya Angelou: “When someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time”. I know that I’m not the only one who needs this reminder from time to time. A loved one tells us something that causes that gut instinct to kick in, but we don’t protect ourselves by acting on it. We don’t want to face the aftermath of a failed relationship or we can't fathom the idea of starting over. For the sake of our peace of mind and emotional well-being, we should listen to what we’re being told by our significant others and evaluate the situation to prevent entertaining a relationship that will only cause pain in the long run. Here are a few ways that they may be telling you that they’re not that into you:
I can recall an ex once telling me that he tends to be indifferent about things (meaning: emotionally unavailable). I ignored the red flag and ended up being miserable because he showed very little care or concern about my feelings or the things that were going on in my life. Why would I entertain such a situation? Sometimes we become so comfortable with the familiar that we fight for it long after it’s dead. We dread the idea of nursing a broken heart…the idea of starting over. You know what? That’s no way to live and you and I both deserve so much more.
Here’s a challenge. Listen to what the other person is telling you. Don’t twist and turn their words to make yourself comfortable. Are they telling you all that you need to know to determine that the relationship is not for you? Are you ignoring your gut instinct? Live your life in such a way that you only have a space for those who want to be there. Entertain healthy relationships and those things that make you happy.
What's a sign that someone may not be that into you? Finish this in comments: Believe 'em when they say...
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1/31/2018 10:30:09 am
All 👏🏾 of 👏🏾 this 👏🏾!!! There was usually signs there but people choose not to see them.
2/1/2018 02:51:37 pm
When someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time is one of my favorite quotes by Maya Angelou as well. Your first point happens all the time a lot of people don't believe someone when they tell them how they truly feel.
2/1/2018 03:05:33 pm
A healthy relationship starts with ones self. If you don' t know who you are looking at in the mirror even the relationships that have the potential to get off the ground can be hampered. Be comfortable in your own skin, some people are afraid to go places by themselves for fear of what people(they don't even know) will think or it's because we feel the awkwardness of being out alone. We can be so hard on ourselves especially when it comes to being socially accepted in socity these days. The pressures to fit in can be a bit much for some. The key is to have control over your own life no matter what others think. You were born by yourself right? Validate yourself, you don't need anyone to do that for you. Don't get me wrong it can boost you up a bit but shouldn't be a total source of dependency from another person. Psalms 139:14 reads.. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. You are God's unique creation there is only ONE of you, isn't it nice to be one of a kind?☺ Walk in confidence, knowing who you are. Find out what you passion in life is, most likely, when you do it may also be your purpose in life. Like they say..life is a journey, be in it!
2/1/2018 08:02:39 pm
Yes to all of the things. As women we are guilty of viewing men with blinders when we are falling for them. We are also guilty of looking at their potential that we ignore the obvious signs. I was guilty of that and it didn't work out.
2/1/2018 09:47:30 pm
I ignored many signs in my relationship because I loved my husband. He was my first true love. When he passed, I realized how much I let go in the name of love.
2/2/2018 02:09:39 pm
This is always such a hard lesson to learn but once you get there it helps prepare you for healthier relationships in the future.
6/30/2018 09:26:31 am
We are living in a world full of judgmental people. It's just sad that we re being judged by people around us without knowing us first. This is making me sad, but we cannot do a thing since it has been the trend already. But when they try to be open in front of you, you should believe them because they might be telling you what's real on them. Sometimes, we need to give the benefit of the doubt, and there's nothing we can do about it. Then try to get to know them, then it would be valid to have your judgment after that.
2/13/2018 08:31:18 am
LOVE your points! This is so true to believe someone when they show/tell you who they really are. I remember before I met my husband I was dating a guy who showed and told me times his true character and I refused to believe it because I was too caught up in my feelings. I spent too many months with hurt feelings until I finally found the courage to end the relationship. So speaking from personal experience, YES times a million! If someone shows you who they really are and it's not who you need to be with, end the relationship to prevent any further heartache! Love your post! xoxo
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