Here’s one of my favorite quotes by Maya Angelou: “When someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time”. I know that I’m not the only one who needs this reminder from time to time. A loved one tells us something that causes that gut instinct to kick in, but we don’t protect ourselves by acting on it. We don’t want to face the aftermath of a failed relationship or we can't fathom the idea of starting over. For the sake of our peace of mind and emotional well-being, we should listen to what we’re being told by our significant others and evaluate the situation to prevent entertaining a relationship that will only cause pain in the long run. Here are a few ways that they may be telling you that they’re not that into you:
I can recall an ex once telling me that he tends to be indifferent about things (meaning: emotionally unavailable). I ignored the red flag and ended up being miserable because he showed very little care or concern about my feelings or the things that were going on in my life. Why would I entertain such a situation? Sometimes we become so comfortable with the familiar that we fight for it long after it’s dead. We dread the idea of nursing a broken heart…the idea of starting over. You know what? That’s no way to live and you and I both deserve so much more.
Here’s a challenge. Listen to what the other person is telling you. Don’t twist and turn their words to make yourself comfortable. Are they telling you all that you need to know to determine that the relationship is not for you? Are you ignoring your gut instinct? Live your life in such a way that you only have a space for those who want to be there. Entertain healthy relationships and those things that make you happy.
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Antoinette C. is a blogger who delights in all things that foster unity and growth in women. After all, if the woman is happy and fulfilled, so is her family and community. Through Truly Charmed, Antoinette will introduce you to women who have inspired her, and who will, hopefully, do the same for you! Here's to your charmed life!