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Just a few months ago, I found myself suffering an identity crisis. I've been a single mom for almost 16 years now. All of this time, my existence had been completely wrapped up in Zaire and Christal: nurturing, providing for, grinding for, dreaming for, and everything else...for Zaire and Christal. I was and I still am determined to be the best mom possible to my children. But, a few months ago, reality hit. My babies are no longer babies. They're both teens now, and they don't need me as much as they used to. I found myself with more "me" time on my hands. Typically, "me time" is golden to a busy parent, but I truly did not know what to do with it. Over the years, I had neglected to nurture my own interests and talents, so who was I now that my children have become older and more independent? This was a hard pill to swallow. I would come home from work and wait for them to finish with their various after-school activities. I would lay on the couch, watching tv, bored out of my mind. I found myself becoming depressed, and decided that I had to do something about it. When I made that decision everything seemed to blossom at once. I started living. I have always identified writing as my God-given talent, but I had been doing nothing with this gift. I had been sitting on it for years. It was finally time for me to write and share it on a public platform. So, my blog, Truly Charmed was born on November 22, 2014. It's a labor of love for me! Another dream of mine---modeling. One week after starting my blog, I started rehearsals for my very first fashion show. It was an awesome experience, and now I am hooked. As parents, we work so very hard to care for our children, but we can't forget about ourselves. I know that so many of us do it, but let's LIVE. What's a dream of yours that you keep putting off? What gifts are you sitting on? While you're nurturing your children, be sure to also feed into your own interests. I am so happy that I decided to get up off of that couch. You can, too! What will be your first move? Antoinette Check out photos of my first photo shoot, first fashion show, and upcoming shows in the gallery below!
19 Comments
LaToya Thompson
2/23/2015 10:35:38 pm
Soror this GREAT !!! I'm a single mother for 19 years of two wonderful children and I van truly say this is me anf so much other single mothers. We all want the best for our babies. Art is my number love but at time I had push my love for art to do things for my children. Now I have a daughter in college and my son have two years left in high school...no more babies anymore. So yes I see myself reunion back to my love for art. This blog really hit home to me and thanks for share this with us sis!!!
JRoc the panty soaker
3/3/2015 11:11:18 am
I too share the gift that you posses. It's that one thing that I can do without even trying to, it just comes natural. For years I'd been writing various poems and songs but after my group and I split up I regained my crown at my craft. I submerged into a pool of thinking and found myself publishing my first book. Well that was 10 books ago all under different pen names. I write all genres and I love the blog you've delivered. I truly respect a woman writer because you guys have a way of making others really feel your words. Congrats on the book if I can find it I'll get it....Jroc T.P.S.
Truly Charmed
3/4/2015 02:12:21 pm
Thank you so much for stopping by! I appreciate the kinds words, and hope that you will continue to check out the posts at Truly Charmed. Continued success with your writing career! 3/5/2015 01:16:48 pm
Beloved, this beautifully written. Kudos to you for taking time to connect with self. A decision even your children appreciate and benefit from later. Blessings.
Karen McLaurin
3/17/2015 01:58:49 pm
Great blog, Antoinette!! I love it. Keep reaching your goals. Your blog has given me inspiration to push myself even harder.
Antoinette
3/18/2015 12:52:12 pm
Karen, thank you so much! I really appreciate you taking the time to read Truly Charmed. You are definitely an inspiration too. That's what it's all about. Living our lives without fear and uplifting one another along the way. Take care! 9/16/2016 08:38:01 am
It's great that you were able to revive your dreams and passions. Self care is so important if we really want to be our best for others. So awesome! It's amazing to just take that first step. You are beautiful as well! For me it was blogging, it was a fear and I knew I had a gift with people and writing and I just took the jump recently and am loving it and shocked by how well it's doing!Great post here. 9/17/2016 03:03:52 pm
That's so awesome that you were able to find your passion. I'm a teacher and in my first two years I was LIVING for my students and didn't take the time to do anything for myself. You seemed to have turned this around for the better. Awesome job. 9/18/2016 11:40:04 pm
Kudos to you for finding your interest. As mothers it is so easy for use to be so consumed with our kids that we forget about ourselves. 9/19/2016 01:35:57 am
i often ask my parents who are you? They respond by saying they are a mother or father. i say who are you? It was difficult for them to answer the question because there lives were so wrapped up in their children. im so glad you are now living for yourself..Good luck and congrats on your endeavors 9/19/2016 08:06:53 am
I can't wait to read more of your post as you begin to find out more about your own passions. I think finding you passions in life and chasing after them is the key to happiness. 9/19/2016 08:26:47 am
You rocked your photoshoot!! I love all of your pictures. You go girl, connecting with yourself!!
I am not a mom but I think (I know) a lot of moms can relate to you. So many women become moms and think there whole lives have to be sacrificed only to realize their babies will eventually grow up to have their own responsibilies, hobbies and lifestyles that wont need mom (parents) help anymore - which is good. Independence in your kids is great and so happy you realized you had to start living for yourself. Leave a Reply. |
AuthorThe creator of Truly Charmed Life, Antoinette Cain, delights in all things fashion, all things fostering empowerment, and all things that inspire ambition. Antoinette started this fashion and lifestyle blog to celebrate those who are living their Charmed Lives and to empower those who haven't yet realized that life may be imperfect, but in every day there is a Charmed moment. Archives
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