How many times have you heard these statements from other women? “I don’t deal with women.” “I don’t have female friends.” What are your thoughts when you hear these statements? My thoughts? Those words are coming from a place of hurt. Maybe she was hurt by a former friend or other close female in her life. We put up emotional walls after being scorned in friendships just as we do in any other failed relationship. I don’t believe that a woman just wakes up one day and decides that, for no reason, she does not want to ‘deal’ with other women. As much as we may not be able to admit it, we really do need one another.
Do We Really Need One Another?
Yes! Absolutely! Women are nurturers. We are naturally inclined to take care of those around us, including one another. We look to one another for understanding, for advice, or simply a listening ear. Friendships among women are often strong and emotional, so, of course, when that bond falls apart, it can be very upsetting, making one leery of opening up to others. Because of this, we have to be as cautious in choosing these close friends as we are in choosing our romantic partners. Protect your circle!
Here are some questions that you may want to ask if you have any doubts about your close friendships with your sister-friends
- Is she genuinely happy for me when good things are happening in my life?
- Is she supportive when I’m dealing with hard times?
- Is she always bringing bad news (e.g. gossip about others and always in the know about what others have to say about me)?
- Does she always have negative things to say about other women?
- Is she discouraging when I talk about my goals/plans?
- Am I always having to forgive or overlook something that she has said or done?
- Does my gut instinct tell me that I may not be able to trust her?
Evaluate your friendships. Either the relationship is feeding into your life or feeding off of your life. Surround yourself with the type of relationships that you deserve. Protect your heart, and protect your peace of mind just as you would in any other relationship. Let’s not give in to the negative hype about women and the way that we relate to one another.
Let’s stick together.
Let’s support one another.
Let’s thrive and claim our charmed lives!
Thanks for checking out the post! Please comment and tell me what your sister-friends mean to you!
Antoinette